Our Box

I don't even have to look to know what is in there. I've looked so many times I know it by heart.
It is baby blue and comes together with a tied silk ribbon.
Our box consists of:
-small pink card stock with her tiny foot prints
-the patient/doctor name card that was on our door
-A note that was placed on our door so that the staff would know that I was going home empty handed. It has a poem on the back and a picture of a leaf on the front.
-The CD that has all of her natural pictures on it
-A tiny pink crotchet toboggan and matching blanket
-Her cupcake outfit and bow (which we had planned to bring her home in)
-The hat the hospital puts on babies as soon as they are born...you know those ugly ones that looks like a piece of cloth tied together with a string at the top
-Three matching hospital bracelets which none of us ever got to wear
-A wisp of her black curls
-a measuring tape
-Her Obituary
On the inside of the top flap there is an insert that states:
Paisly Grace Davenport
June 21, 2010 @ 7:26am
4lbs. 9oz.
18 1/2 inches long
chest- 10 1/2 inches
Head- 11 1/2 inches


That's it. That is all I was given at the hospital when Paisly Grace was born. While there we had to decide what funeral home we were going to use so that they could come pick up her lifeless body that afternoon. Usually when you go through 15 hours of labor you are given a birth certificate right? We weren't. Usually when you have to pick a funeral home, then pick a casket that seems too small to even fit a stuffed animal inside of, you get a death certificate, right? We weren't. On paper, our daughter doesn't exist. How is that? I had to pay all those hospital and doctor's bills from when she was delivered. I have a bill that states I was in a labor/delivery room and was given medicine to ease the pain of labor. We paid a funeral home and a monument company to make her headstone. Yet I have neither a birth or death certificate. Although our beautiful daughter lived only in my womb, she still lived and died. I believe this needs to be recognized as such. Please be one to help change the laws so NC moms that have to give birth to their sleeping babies can have some acknowledgment that their baby's life matters.
Please go to this link and sign the petition
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/3/certificate-of-birth-resulting-in-stillbirth-in-north-carolina/

I would love to have something other than a little blue box that states that our daughter existed.